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What intimidates men about highly successful women?

By: Katherine Bouglai

I have worked with many women who hold high level positions, some of them are my clients, some of them I network with and some are just friends. I hear a lot of them say that it's hard for them to find a man in their lives because their success and independence scares men away. Is that really true?

Claudia is an attractive woman in her early 50s, an owner of a large business, came to me one day feeling hopeless and desperate. She has been dating for years and yet couldn't find a meaningful relationship that lasted more than a couple of months. Like all the rest of us she wanted to meet someone who would love her and admire her for her successes in life and be willing to be in a long term loving intimate relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. I thought her desire was valid and very much understandable. As we were talking during our introductory session I could immediately sense that I am talking to someone who has very high standards. And the more we talked, the more unsure I felt that I could meet her standards as a coach. She kept insisting that I give her advices on what should she do, where should she go and what approach should she take. When I let her know what my services are, that as a coach I provide emotional and spiritual support, personal insight and help people create action plans to achieve their goals. When I told her that I do not give direct advices to my clients and my services do not include matchmaking because I believe telling people what to do disempowers them, she was clearly disappointed. When I got off the phone with her, I felt sad for Claudia, it became clear to me that I couldn't help her at that time. After all, it is my mission in life and my passion to help people find loving and meaningful relationships.

And then I came to realization. I have many other clients who greatly benefit from my work with them and I have given successful workshops, so in the end I knew that the problem wasn't me or my skills. However, as I believe that every feeling we experience is there for a reason I was sure that there was a good reason for this one. This must be the way many people, particularly men who date someone like Claudia feel about themselves when they are around her, unsure that they will be able to help her or meet her standards. It is not her successes in life that they feel threatened by, it is her high demands and expectations. She probably knows that her standards are high, but she has no idea what it feels like to be the person next to her. This doesn't necessarily mean that men are not attracted to women like Claudia. However, men who will be attracted to someone like her will be the ones who believe that her approval will make them look good in the eyes of society. But will a man like that ever be able to be good enough in the eyes of a woman with unrealistically high demands, standards and expectations? And how can a woman like that respect a man who doesn't respect himself?

The bottom line is to be as humble as you can to yourself and others. If you are a highly successful woman, don't let this hold you back from dating and exploring your relationship possibilities. Your success will not intimidate the man who is right for you, no matter how successful he is. But your judgmental and demanding attitude will definitely push him away. If the guy is still intimidated by your success, even though you showed him nothing but kindness and compassion, than let this be his problem and not yours. There is no need to diminish your own success in order to make others feel more comfortable, in fact this will cause a lot of damage to you over something that you actually need to be proud of. Be yourself but also, try to let others do what they can to make you happy if they have a desire to do so.

Copyright (c) 2008 Katherine Bouglai

Article Source: http://www.newagelivingarticles.com

Katherine Bouglai
Singles Coach
www.beopentolove.com

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